- Our family is like the branches of a tree
- We may grow in different directions yet our roots remain as one
- Each of us will always be a part of the other
This says it all. For a long while the Quiliett family had lost its way. Then from out of the darkness came a light. A light called Carel and Betty Van Druten. Through their endless dedication is tracing the roots of our family we once again have a family identidy.
The early deaths of Emilio Quilietti and Valentina Brattessani, his young wife, was what really snapped the branch which connected us to our roots away back then. Some of the branches were loosely connected but through the years our memories faded as the years rolled on. The young Quilietti family would not have known their parents with Emilio dying at the age of 29 and Valentina at the age of 35. With a new step-father who himself remarried and brought up by their maternal aunts and uncles their lives were turned upside down. They all ended up marrying very young and making their own way in life, and eventually losing what ties were left with their Italian past.
Of course family matters in the past decades were not really a great topic of conversation, especially is the memories were vague or tarnished. But the recent resurgence in family roots has helped immensly in re-uniting many families such as ours.
We have since 1992 been re-united Quilietti clan. We have little by little been uncovering our past with all her secrets. We have returned to our forefather’s home in Italy trying to establish a link with the family past.
We have had a lot of re-unions and great fun in re-discovering our cousins, or lost aunts and uncles. It has been fun uncovering some of the dark secrets from the past. It has also been very sad in realising what pain our great-grandmother Valentina’s life was like after the death of her husband.
- First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they carried us and lived in houses made of asbestos.
- They took aspirin, full milk, raw egg products, loads of bacon and processed meat, tuna from a can, and didn’t get tested for diabetes or cervical cancer.
- Then after that trauma, our baby cots were covered with bright coloured lead-based paints.
- We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets or shoes, not to mention, the risks we took hitchhiking.
- We would (occasionally) ride in cars with no seat belts or air bags.
- We drank water from the garden hose and NOT from a bottle.
- Take away food was limited to fish and chips, no pizza shops, McDonalds, KFC, Subway or Burger King.
- Even though all the shops closed at 6.00pm and didn’t open on the weekends, somehow we didn’t starve to death!
- We shared a ginger bottle with four friends, and NO ONE actually died from this..
- We could collect old gingies and cash them in at the local shop and buy Toffees, Gobstoppers, Bubble Gum and some bangers to blow up frogs with. We ate cream cakes, white bread and real butter and drank soft drinks with sugar in it, but we weren’t overweight because……
- WE WERE ALWAYS OUTSIDE PLAYING!!
- We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on.
- No one was able to reach us all day. And we were O.K.
- We would spend hours building our go-carts out of old prams and then ride down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. We built tree houses and dens and played in river beds with matchbox cars.
- We did not have Playstations, Nintendo Wiis, X-boxes, no video games at all, no 987 channels on SKY, no video/dvd films, no mobile phones, no personal computers, no Internet or Internet chat rooms……….WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them!
- We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there was no legal from these accidents.
- Only girls had pierced ears!
- We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever.
- You could only buy Easter Eggs and Hot Cross Buns at Easter time…
- We were given air guns and catapults for our 10th birthdays,
- We rode bikes or walked to a friend’s house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just yelled for them!
- Mum didn’t have to go to work to help dad make ends meet!
- Football and netball had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn’t had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!! Getting into the team was based on MERIT.
- Our teachers used to hit us with belts and bully’s always ruled the playground at school.
- The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the Polis!
- Our parents didn’t invent stupid names for their kids like ‘Kiora’ and ‘Blade’ and ‘Ridge’ and ‘Vanilla’
- We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned HOW TO DEAL WITH IT ALL !
And YOU are one of them!
A FAMILY REUNION
A family reunion is a great source of joy and excitement. In the world we live in families are often scattered throughout the world. Loved ones may not see or talk to each other for years even if there is only a bus or a plane ride separating them. A family reunion is a time to remember that although you may feel close to your friends or neighbours there is nothing quite like family. These are your blood relations and are closest to you. You share the same memories, the same history, the same ancestors. When you really need help your family are there for you. You may be apart for years but just pick up conversation like you saw each other yesterday. No words are often needed as your memories sustain the bond.
We are little by little discovering new branches of our extended tree and of course our unique name lives on with the births of new Quilietti’s in Scotland, keeping our name alive.
Above all we must try and keep our name live on, as we are unique. There is no-one else in the whole world who has our surname as we must be the protector of this no matter what. Of course there will be good and bad in any name and we can have a chuckle when we do an internet search and find some interesting entries. We cannot deny it however, these people belong to us……..they are our family
- I often think of you, do you often think of me?
- One day I hope that we will meet, you’d be so proud of me,
- I often wonder why you had to go away, and how different things would have been if you had been here to stay,
- Time goes by so fast, I’m getting older every day,
- So many things to see, so many things to say,
- If you were here today would you pass me in the street,
- Not recognising me as your own with my very funny feet,
- Or if you would stop and cradle me if by chance we did meet
- I pass by familiar streets where the two of you would have walked,
- Past the Church where you were married, past the home you made your own
- Today my thoughts of you both are never far away
- and I shed a tear or two for the hardships that came your way
- And for the souls of your lost babies who were taken from you long ago
- And I think of a reunion when the bright lights of our family would shine through
- And there would once again be laughter and a time to get to know the both of you
- And it would be a time to meet your families and for you to reminisce
- And a time for us to tell you
- That you will always be a part of us and that you are both so sadly missed.
Helen Rose Quilietti, great- great-grandaughter of Emilio and Valentina
some of the many links of our Quilietti family are
CLOSELY LINKED CONNECTED SURNAMES
ARPINO, BRATTISANI,BRUCCIANI COFFRINI, CONTI, DANTE, DEMARCO, DANTE, FUSCO, GARGARA, GIOVANELLI, GIULIANOTTI, OLIVIERI, PRACCIA, RAFFANTI, ROCCHI, RICCI DE-PLACIDO MURRAY
Then of course we have the many Scottish ties through each of our own inidivual Quilietti family marriages. My own nearest and dearest would be
MORRISON CRAWFORD DENHOLM BOYLE WALKER BRADY MURRAY
and the in-laws STANTON SUTHERLAND WHELAHAN MADIGAN WHELAHAN MADIGAN
Then lastly, but not least, we have the most famous Dutch family VAN DRUTEN to whom we owe millions of thanks in helping us re-unite and re-establish our family contacts and for this we will all be eternally thankful and grateful.
Others near and dear to us would be
COWAN /WOOD /McVIE/ HENDERSON/
RAE /MURRAY /McLEOD /HUNTER /FERGUSON/
The surname list is almost endless with many intertwining and intermarrying on the Italian sides in the early days. From our unique surname and our ancestral father Leonardo we have 100 Quilietti descendents who proudly own the Q. name. Our family tree shows 1900 connected family members and more growing every day.
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